Last Saturday, my sister-in-law texted and asked what my kids want for Christmas. In the past Christmas meant so much crap. I'm sure all the other mommie bloggers out there have this topic covered about the uselessness of so much stuff. I'm not going there. What really set me off about this innocuous text was that I found out on our vacation last July that they came and spent a couple of days within 15 minutes of my house. They spent DAYS within my area, and not once did they reach out and ask for a meal/visit/or other time to visit and reconnect with family. I didn't say anything at the time. It wasn't the right time. So I moved on.Several weeks ago, my brother asked for me to do some genealogy research. I sent him an email and gave him all the information that I knew about the ancestor so that he could begin. Genealogy is a time suck, and I don't want to be pulled back in the past while I'm trying to focus on the future. After contemplating my sister-in-law's request, I texted back that my kids would like more time with their cousins for Christmas. Because all of the kids are growing up too fast. Time is starting to march forward with a quicker beat. I'd like to at least give my kids a chance at bonding with my brother's kids. But like the vacation, email concerning genealogy, and this last text, I haven't heard a word from from them. Not a thank you for the information, nor an obligatory "we'll try" text to at least acknowledge my presence. I do know that I'm tired of the crap the comes in the door. We're not for sale or beholden to gifts. We want real expressions of love and caring, not something that they will forget about in a few weeks after the flurry of wrapping paper gets recycled. So, we're always up for a new experience, Because making memories and building familial bonds with family is a much better use of our time and effort.
Monday, November 21, 2016
Tactical Error
I may have made a tactical error. Ok, I probably made the error, but what's done is done, and the only thing to do is move forward.
Last Saturday, my sister-in-law texted and asked what my kids want for Christmas. In the past Christmas meant so much crap. I'm sure all the other mommie bloggers out there have this topic covered about the uselessness of so much stuff. I'm not going there. What really set me off about this innocuous text was that I found out on our vacation last July that they came and spent a couple of days within 15 minutes of my house. They spent DAYS within my area, and not once did they reach out and ask for a meal/visit/or other time to visit and reconnect with family. I didn't say anything at the time. It wasn't the right time. So I moved on.Several weeks ago, my brother asked for me to do some genealogy research. I sent him an email and gave him all the information that I knew about the ancestor so that he could begin. Genealogy is a time suck, and I don't want to be pulled back in the past while I'm trying to focus on the future. After contemplating my sister-in-law's request, I texted back that my kids would like more time with their cousins for Christmas. Because all of the kids are growing up too fast. Time is starting to march forward with a quicker beat. I'd like to at least give my kids a chance at bonding with my brother's kids. But like the vacation, email concerning genealogy, and this last text, I haven't heard a word from from them. Not a thank you for the information, nor an obligatory "we'll try" text to at least acknowledge my presence. I do know that I'm tired of the crap the comes in the door. We're not for sale or beholden to gifts. We want real expressions of love and caring, not something that they will forget about in a few weeks after the flurry of wrapping paper gets recycled. So, we're always up for a new experience, Because making memories and building familial bonds with family is a much better use of our time and effort.
Last Saturday, my sister-in-law texted and asked what my kids want for Christmas. In the past Christmas meant so much crap. I'm sure all the other mommie bloggers out there have this topic covered about the uselessness of so much stuff. I'm not going there. What really set me off about this innocuous text was that I found out on our vacation last July that they came and spent a couple of days within 15 minutes of my house. They spent DAYS within my area, and not once did they reach out and ask for a meal/visit/or other time to visit and reconnect with family. I didn't say anything at the time. It wasn't the right time. So I moved on.Several weeks ago, my brother asked for me to do some genealogy research. I sent him an email and gave him all the information that I knew about the ancestor so that he could begin. Genealogy is a time suck, and I don't want to be pulled back in the past while I'm trying to focus on the future. After contemplating my sister-in-law's request, I texted back that my kids would like more time with their cousins for Christmas. Because all of the kids are growing up too fast. Time is starting to march forward with a quicker beat. I'd like to at least give my kids a chance at bonding with my brother's kids. But like the vacation, email concerning genealogy, and this last text, I haven't heard a word from from them. Not a thank you for the information, nor an obligatory "we'll try" text to at least acknowledge my presence. I do know that I'm tired of the crap the comes in the door. We're not for sale or beholden to gifts. We want real expressions of love and caring, not something that they will forget about in a few weeks after the flurry of wrapping paper gets recycled. So, we're always up for a new experience, Because making memories and building familial bonds with family is a much better use of our time and effort.
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